I am 24, with a daughter who is only 10 months old. Single mother. I’ve been seeing a different guy for a few months, we used protection but yesterday I found out I am pregnant. Only 4-5 weeks. I instantly thought I’m definitely getting an abortion. I already ordered the abortion pill on heyjane. But I’m afraid of regretting it forever. I feel like such a whore, even though I don’t sleep around. Pregnant with two different men in a two year time frame.
I was dating the first guy for two years and he left me when I was 14 weeks pregnant and ignored me my entire pregnancy.
I’ve dated/known this guy for 5 months.
I just feel like I’m going to go to hell. I keep wondering who they will be if I dont abort. How will I live? Will I be able to give my daughter who is already here the love that she deserves? Am I a bad mom? I’m torn. I’m so so torn. I do not know what to do. I wish I could go back in time and never let this happen. I wish I never spoke to a man. I wish I just kept all of my focus on my daughter and never dated again. I know once the baby is here I will view them as a blessing. But I’m selfishly thinking about my own feelings and it makes me feel even shittier.
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Please do not get an abortion. You will regret it. There is help out there. You will be okay.
Dear Undecided,
I know you are confused and unsure of what to do, but deep down you know you hold a little person within you who is completely dependent on your care and love, just like your little 10 month old girl. All your regretful decisions will never compare to killing that little one. I hope you’ve read a few of the testimonies on this site so you can see that pain and regret never goes away.
First of all, if you choose to keep your baby, you’ll never ever regret it. You’ll find your second to be just as much a precious joy and gift to your life as your first no matter what the trials and hard times. Every day is a fresh, new day and a chance to do things right. God is so good like that. No matter your past, He always offers to you a clean slate.
Secondly, if you absolutely feel you have no choice and no way out, I’d like to offer you a way out that does not kill your baby. My family lives in Texas, my husband is a pastor of a little church and we have three children ages 12, 7, and 3. We have all agreed as a family to extend this help to any woman we come across who is considering abortion. We have offered on this site to two other women, but have not heard back from them. We will adopt your baby, you can legally sign guardianship over to us and we will take in your child and love them as our own as if I had birthed them myself. We don’t care about race, gender, background, anything. We love God and we love people, including you and your baby.
Our hope is that you will have your baby and keep him or her and live life so happy to have that precious child as part of your life, but if you just cannot do that, please choose to give your baby life with us.
I’ll be praying for you, friend. I pray you’ll seek God through this and choose what is good and right.
Please reach out to me on Facebook messenger, even if it’s just to vent or for questions, anything at all. I will check daily for a message from you. I’ll do everything I can to help you through this, even fly to you and be with you through labor and delivery. You and your baby are worth it.
JonandTricia Stewart
College Station, TX
I had an abortion and I regret killing my pre-born daughter.
There is so much help for you and your family. Having a second child may be difficult at times but this would never compare to regret you would have aborting your child and your daughter’s sibling.
Please contact at least one of these various organizations for help.
https://optionline.org/
https://www.standingwithyou.org/
https://www.heartbeatinternational.org/
Please also feel free to contact me personally is you so choose and I will help you. I am the Regional Coordinator of Minnesota with Silent No More. My e-mail is Minneapolis@SilentNoMore.com.
I had an abortion and I regret killing my pre-born daughter.
There is so much help for you and your family. Having a second child may be difficult at times but this would never compare to regret you would have aborting your child and your daughter’s sibling.
Please contact at least one of these various organizations for help.
https://optionline.org/
https://www.standingwithyou.org/
https://www.heartbeatinternational.org/
Please also feel free to contact me personally if you so choose and I will help you. I am the Regional Coordinator of Minnesota with Silent No More. My e-mail is Minneapolis@SilentNoMore.com.
Dont abort, Trust in God, he will help you! Put all your faith and prayer in Jesus. This child is already a blessing , he is already bringing you and our Lord closer.
Any update ?…we are all hoping you chose life and the love of your baby.
For all that I suffered over an abortion, i am hoping i can save a life. Trust me that the regret is a lifetime nightmare.
Thank you for sharing your story – your honesty is so courageous. Please know of my prayers for you. Your words lay out beautifully the conflict you are feeling. With your same words, I trust that you know the right answer. While the pregnancy was unintended, the baby is now in your care. The safest place on earth should be the mother’s womb; please keep your child safe from all harm. For help and resources, please call 844-289-HOPE. There will never be a child like this one; you will forever wonder (and regret) who this child could have been. Please choose life. May God bless and keep you and your baby, always.