I’m 21 , currently engaged and 9 weeks pregnant but my fiancé wants me to have an abortion . From the beginning I completely said no and no I found out right before getting on a plane to LA and he had just left to Hawai’i . Being apart for a week brought up so much turmoil because we found out apart from each other and at first he was happy and excited then a few days later he was saying he can’t do this , we don’t have the finances , we’ll struggle , I’m not ready to be a dad . All these things which I understood but we’re engaged to be married so why would my fiancé be asking me to kill our baby . I was so hurt and still am but somehow put it in the back of my mind like it wasn’t happening. Until the day of Jun 21 2022 . I couldn’t sleep at all the night before I kept praying for anything to happen so I didn’t go through with it and something did happen where the appointment had to be inevitably rescheduled. I cried so much at that clinic because I felt like I wasn’t suppose to be there . I don’t know what to do . If I don’t do the abortion I know that’s the end of my relationship and he’s all I have now . I can’t go back to my parents or any family . I feel so stuck . My life was great in LA when I was on my own and now I feel like I’ve given up my entire life for this man . My next appointment is on Jun 28th . I can’t do this . Im beyond confused .
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I was 14, and pregnant. We used protection, but it failed. I was the one who wanted an abortion. My boyfriend paid for it. My mom supported my decision. I was 8 weeks. I do not remember having an ultrasound. We couldn’t afford anesthesia. I was awake during the whole thing. It seemed like an eternity, but I’m sure it was very quick. It hurt very bad. I cried. No one was there to hold my hand. It was a suction abortion. I deserved the pain. And I deserve the pain I live with now. I’ve received God’s forgiveness, but I do still feel guilty. If I could go back, I would have carried to term, and given the baby up for adoption. Please, if you are reading this and considering an abortion, don’t go thru with it!! Please give your baby a chance at life.
I don’t know if this will ever be read but it’s something I want to speak about as I think about it every single day. I was three days from my 21st birthday when I found out I was pregnant from A guy I barely knew who couldn’t give two craps about me. I was alone when I found out and I was also pro life. I had all these plans for my 21st birthday that I now had to go through with while I was pregnant. I will admit it I always said I could never do it until it happened to me and now I’m an advocate. All I have been taught my whole life is that I will be sent straight to hell for what I have just done to my what could’ve been child. My heart and mind are in so much pain that I don’t acknowledge until the Feeling randomly comes up in a series of anxiety and panic attacks when I’m least expecting it. When I told the guy he got me pregnant he cash app me $600 and didn’t say a word to me. My friends I live with would get a abortion with no remorse so they have no idea how I’m feeling. I had no money left to even buy myself pads for the pill I was about to take. It’s not a big deal I told myself because it was just a grain of rice but it is a big deal to me because I want my own family someday end nobody was there to help me through it.
It’s now been six months and I’m in agony holding this massive grudge on my shoulder. I know I would be a great mom and in the end would have support from people but my depression was so bad I didn’t think I’d be able to survive it myself. I have to keep pausing to even type this because it sends me into such a panic over hunched over screaming and crying. Why would I talk about it? because I really want to but nobody around me understands and has experienced such. I’ve been angry and emotional ever since on A downward spiral in life. I will never be the same I’m in so much pain that I don’t know how to heal or where to even start I feel like I am going to be miserable for life. I feel like I don’t deserve children anymore. Like I don’t deserve a family of my own one day. I feel like I’m being dramatic and so many people get them why should I be sad right? But I can be sad and I can grieve because you don’t get to tell me how to feel. My feelings are valid and I have every right to feel the way I do.
I had 2 abortions chose to suppress every feeling and emotion lived a life of unfullfillment now I am very ill iwas able to come to terms with what I had done and spiritually find God back in my life Dawn
My husband and I had only been together a short time, we were young and I just panicked and went. I felt so bad, I didn’t pay any extra fees for extra pain medicine but I knew I deserved to feel all of it. We made a promise that’s never going to happen again and about a year later I was pregnant with my son who is 9 now. He has this wonderful “little brother” type of energy to him, I feel deep down like he was meant to be one.
The most heart breaking thing you will ever do. I asked him to marry me. I was pregnant. He said not now. I was ashamed to tell my family. Forty years have gone by. I’m so angry and ashamed I was not stronger. Why did I care so much what my family would say? There is a hole in my soul. God has forgiven me and I will see my child some day.
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In 1985, I discovered I was pregnant. I went to the local Planned Parenthood and they told me I was 11 weeks pregnant. I was terrified, I loved children but I was just a teenager. The doctor told me I had to either get an abortion within the next 7 days or have the baby. I had only missed one period. I had been using marijuana regularly. And had used LSD once. I thought if I had the baby it would be irreparably damaged. I borrowed the money and scheduled an appt. I cut school and went to the clinic. People were picketing outside. I didn’t want to get out of the truck but my friends said this is it, you either do it now or you can’t come back. I went inside was knocked out and they did the d&c. After, I got back in the vehicle and went to a friends. She decided to have a party. Why I stayed I will never know. I drank heavily. I felt terrible about what I had done. That evening I started bleeding profusely but I could not go back to the doctor. I didn’t have any money and I couldn’t tell my family. I stopped bleeding after a few days. Since that time, I have never become pregnant again. I regretted that abortion from that day to this. Sadly, I did not know that would be the only chance for me to have a child. I dream of that baby even now. Sad that I thought there was no other option for me. Sad to think that the people who should have helped me were as stupid as I was. Sad that the one family member I could turn to for help gave me the money instead of talking me out of it. Sad.