I am 34 and already have 5 kids we often struggle financially especially with the cost of living in where we are living ,I blame myself for not being more careful or taking some contraception and now I am about 10 weeks pregnant time is going fast and I feel as the baby grows bigger and looks more like a fetus I will feel more connected and worse for having an abortion , but I truly can’t have another one I feel we will struggle to provide the time and money for the baby I’m so sad yet angry at myself for even thinking about abortion but i feel it’s the only way I need help and advice on what to do. Although I read some testimonies I still feel I have to do this for me and my family but I am also scared I will change as a person and feel regret.
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My best advice I can possibly give you is, don’t give up. Even if there is a 1 % part of you that wants this baby even in a sea of a million negative reasons don’t give up. Sometime thinking about the whole giant picture at once can be overwhelming especially in an already difficult situation and it can take the breath out of you. But it doesn’t mean it will turn out that way. You will not regret holding your baby in your arms. This may sound strange and crazy thing to say but even if your baby is born and here and you are not able to care for them personally there still a way.
There is a sign on my door that I look at often (to remind myself haha) it says ‘You are braver than you believe stronger than you seem and more loved than you know’
I know I am a stranger but I do wish and pray for the best for you and your family. : )
I recently turned 30 and I have 5 kids. They are all very close in age so it gets hard: 0,2,4,6,8. When I found out I was pregnant with the 5th I wasn’t happy and was traumatized from the last delivery. But God is so good that just one push and my beautiful baby boy was here, felt miraculous. Our whole family is in love with him it’s like he was always meant to be here, fits right into our family. Can’t imagine life without him. Life will always be hard, kids or no kids. Sometimes the easy way out is not so easy. If I were you I would pray on it. “Lean not unto thine own understanding.” Because you can only see today, God can see 40, 50 years from now, he makes better decisions for you. “be still, know that I am God” take no action yet, just listen, know that God is with you and follow what he puts in your heart to do. Good luck on everything!
I just turned 30 and I have 5 kids: 0,2,4,6,8 and it gets hard. When I found out I was pregnant with my 5th I wasn’t happy and I was traumatized from my past delivery. But God is so good he allowed me to push once and my baby boy was here. Our whole family is in love with him. It feels like he was always meant to exist. He fits right into our family. We can’t imagine life without him. I thank God for him every single day because we didn’t want him but God knew we needed him. The problem is we can only see today but God can see 30,40 years from now that’s why “lean not unto thine understanding.” Trust God to put the right decision in your heart. Pray for guidance and you will receive it.
Dear Sweet Mommy,
I know you are struggling right now and, in the short term view that you have, you see no way of this working, but I beg you to consider a few things before you make up your mind (I hope I’m not too late):
1) You know as well as any woman (and even moreso considering your have already carried to birth four children) that you are carrying a live human being inside your womb. That baby is safe and cared for in your womb, just as he/she should be. I hope you’ll take a moment right now and just think about that. Just because your baby isn’t as cute as a newborn doesn’t mean they aren’t a tiny baby. Your baby has all his little toes and fingers, he’s kicking away, growing and developing, just like he will do outside your belly. He or she is YOUR CHILD.
2) Can you imagine killing one of your other children just because life was too hard to take care of them? I know you wouldn’t, I know you love them. No matter how difficult the situation, no matter how poor you got, you would find a way to take care of your kids even if it meant they had to stay at an aunt’s house or a friend’s house until you got on your feet. You wouldn’t think of ending their life for one second. Your current four children are just children. They are growing and developing just like your baby #5. They need you just like this child in your womb needs you.
3) Abortion is not your only option. If you truly believe you cannot care for this little one, give your baby the best chance at life you can and have him or her adopted. I know so many friends who were adopted at birth and not one of them ever wished they had died instead. Give your baby life even if it is life away from you. Sacrifice, as you know, is part of loving someone. I pray you will love your newest baby and do your very best for them.
4) Killing this child will cause much forever pain to you and your other children. Just keep reading the testimonies… they are stories from people just like you. They tell the real truth. Abortion, killing a baby, it does something awful to you and those around you.
I am praying for you, friend. I pray you’ll have read my message to you. I pray you’ll let your baby’s Creator take care of all the uncertainties and difficulties. I pray you’ll find rest and peace in giving your baby life. What better gift is there?
I can’t help in the financial department, I’m just a pastor’s wife of a tiny church in Texas, but I can give you counsel and advice, I can pray for you, I can point you to the Lord and show you from the Bible how God’s way is so amazing. If you need anything, you can message me anytime on FB: JonandTricia Stewart.
I don’t know if I’m too late, but Let Them Live is an organization that raises money for women who are pregnant and considering abortion, but are unable to afford a child. They have helped many women, babies, and families.
There is never a perfect time to have a baby…make lifestyle changes…do whatever it takes just like our great grandparents did…that is a baby…your baby…in the safest place he/she will ever be…do whatever you have to do to protect him/her. Planned, it’s a baby…unplanned IT’S STILL A BABY! Be strong Mama. God bless.
I wish I had seen this sooner. I hope you had this baby. God planned for him/her to be your child and will give yoi everything you need to raise him. Please write back and let us know you had a change of heart and mind.